The angels on your shoulders

As a very small child, my mother taught me to say prayers before bed.

After the recitation came the list of saying “God Bless” to everyone I could think of.

I had no clue more than God hears all our prayers, but my experience was that his reply was mostly “no”.

I lived for years with the idea that God was busy having his/her nails done around the time I was praying, and as we were Unitarians, I gave up, and used prayer time to get a moment with my mother.

I once asked her when I was 3, after Sunday school, why the Unitarians never mentioned Jesus.

She said that they did when they were falling down stairs.

“What do they believe in,” I persisted -

“The fatherhood of God, the brotherhood of man, and the neighborhood of Boston” she said.

My daughter, and her daughters, in the face of insanity and evil, have been given the tools to know that God is within them, the Holy Spirit speaks to them, and that we are all connected through the one truth that created everything, including free will. 

On my own way to finding the truth behind these ideas, I examined a variety of paths.

My current thinking is that they all lead to the one Source.

How could it be otherwise?

Another thing I remember about being little, and frequently afraid, feeling alone, and uncared about or protected, was that mum had told me about guardian angels.  The story was that we each had one, every one of us, and it was a presence who watched over us and kept us safe.  

It took some time before I noticed things in my rear view mirror, like that there were so many times my brother could have followed through on his threats to kill me, but because I was so much younger than he was, and he was smart enough to know that killing me would cause him more trouble, threats were enough to ensure silence. 

So, still here, but not silent anymore.

I can see from here, in how many ways I was lucky, and later, I got demonstrations of the differences in how things went for my life if I listened to the quiet voice, delivering one liners, against the other one, which bullied and threatened.

The threatening voice which has no new tricks, or arguments, and yet, somehow, the world is filled with people who listen to it.  It uses fear, and outrage, and self pity, and self righteousness.  I don’t need to tell you.  You all have heard that voice, that noise.  

It’s the one that makes you take up a drink, or a needle, or stay in a bad relationship.  The one that allows us to claim as friends people who are not our friends.  

It is the voice that pushes us to little revenges, and later, bigger ones.

But then there is the one that stands with us from birth, the one that tells us to help that person who just fell down in front of us, not to go around them, even if we are late.  We get told, don’t go to that place, or why not stop and listen to that person in front of you, why not give something, why not let go of that grievance, why not forgive?

Richard Rohr says we have to let go of things, (tangible and intangible) there is nothing else we are here for, and it’s not a matter of if, but of when.

Another thing about the angel of light, the guardians, the guides, the voice of the Holy Spirit, whom Jesus specifically left for all of us; they will not interfere with free will.  

We get to choose, at every fork in the road, which way we will walk.

We all have a team, that loves us, that wants us to grow in light; that knows that where we are going is more important than where we have been.

They can’t step in on their own.

They are just waiting to be asked.

The Rain Comes Down

 Masks on

Guns drawn-

"I'm not angry with you"

Her last words echo across heaven.

As she is received by the heart of the universe

There is celebration in the Capitol

And in the bot farms

And in hell... [I know hell has gone out of fashion]

In spite of watching my country spiral

counter-clockwise into darkness,

dishes must be washed

wood gathered;

Friends and family must be told how precious they are

how deeply loved,

because we never know [if we don't say so]

The chance might slip into the gap between here

and not here.

"Get the fuck out of the car"

[run, honey, run, it's gone too far ]

The ghouls are here-

fueled with testosterone and disconnection

This hate, a virus.  a spreading infection.

Some decision was made...

Was some decision made?

What trap door was lifted to loose the fantasies

that bind a soul to the Dark Lord

until the final day?

The soulless instrument of death

Planting seeds of a turning

with each drop of blood,

each last breath.

Sent, not to oblivion as the words were said 

"Fucking Bitch"

But surely, [I must believe]

to be received in Light's loving embrace

and here in this broken place

The rain comes down.

The Victory Way

 Raised in bitterness and shame

Always seeking sweetness

though it had no name

the unknown quality of it,

Something the baby heart remembered from before.

Too little to need religion in that time of no teaching,

But still here with the will to tell the difference between love

and no love....

Somewhere along the way, I lost the compass -

confusing fear with familiarity,

taking meanness for humor,

being stirred in response to danger

finding serpents when I needed a fish.

The muffled voice of God makes real efforts to cut through my misdirected longing.

We are aliens here, amid rules of conduct and appropriate goals.

Trying on one smiling face after another

each burning skin

but to fit in

somewhere,

to be allowed to sit at the fire and have a story heard

the naked self must be concealed.

It doesn't take long, though, before the shield

becomes too leaden.  too hot, 

too cold,

too broken -

the bits blown about by a rising wind.

If I could breathe in that wind

and informed by it, take what I have learned,

and heal all the suffering and bloody masked faces?

If we,

If I

could be free enough to dance beneath the Moon

knowing to the bone

The Victory Way

Interesting Times

 4AM, Basil and I wake from sleep to see the stars of Orion's Belt

Like eyes, watching us.

He is glad I have awakened before dawn, so he may nudge me out of bed

Me for Advil, him for kibbles.

His purring comforts me; he is my guru.

All is well, he tells me, {particularly after getting a snack}

The turning earth reminds me of the heart of all things

which is deep peace.

You wouldn't think so as the human mind shows its shadow 

that rules the world at this, and many times.

Underpinning the dance of human drama, where the main evidence is of agony,

and a bottomless need to get revenge.

It is harder work than righting wrongs to bring balance between warring egos of men whose thirst for power

and all that is transient.

Those who hunger for a world in which children may be born, raised and loved in safety

are pinned like captured butterflies.

It is for the nurturers to change the world.

It is for the wordless play of human hearts connecting to bring us back from the edge,

To end the rage and blame, 

to restore harmony of light and dark to the soul.

The knowledge that even in the greatest of loves,

there is irritation

on the path of awakening, 

boredom exists.

There is not one thing we can feel or experience that is not a signpost

directing us to wholeness.

May all beings find refuge in the mind of God

May all beings know peace

May all beings be free from suffering.

May all beings be drawn by a shared awareness of the unbreakable connection between us and all sentient life..

May we all find forgiveness and grant that to one another in all things.

The heart of the world calls us to this task -

There is no other.

The Wheel of Fortune

 Step right up

There is no choice,

And sing to loose a frozen voice.

Within the throat a shredded song,

70 winters come and gone.

Round and round and round she goes.

Will it stop?

Please God,

Someone?

Knows…

Winter, Spring, Summer, fall

Again, again,

And that is all?

Behind tormenting repetition

Awaits a blessed extradition;

And in this mean time,

With a grin

A dime to spin, 

a dime to win.

Jay

It is November

And I am thinking of the dead man that I loved.

He was sweet and funny,

And there was transcendence in the making.

He took me to Door County in the winter

We stayed 2 nights in a funky cabin on the lake

The lake that is an inland sea.

And he, native to that place told me stories of sinking ships

And lost treasure and ghosts of the crews

That happened more often than you might expect on a lake.

For those who lived there, it was more than a lake to be wearied by tourists.

It was a great Deity to be worshipped.

It gave everything

And it took everything

And in his arms in the dark, I could hear 

The cold, windy god, calling his children home.

“This is nothing to do with us” I thought….

Just ghost stories told in the beloved’s voice

On a magical few days that would never be repeated.

I don’t know how he died,

We lost touch after his marriage,

But I know

What we had those years was real,

But intermittent,

 because he would not leave his Lake God then,

And I clung to my granite and maple temple.

Happy First Birthday Corona

 One year ago I was sitting at my friend’s kitchen table discussing the state of things when she told me that she and her husband had decided to go into deep quarantine and there wouldn’t be a refill on that cup of coffee.

I’m a creature of habit. 

 A year later, and I’m still going out in the morning, but now I go to Dunkin’ Donuts for my coffee, and instead of seeing familiar faces, I’m on the phone the whole time...(hands free).

I have the sensation, at times, of being on an ice floe, and the current decides where I am headed and if there are any ice floes carrying people within shouting distance.  I am grateful when there are.

Because I have been mostly alone, I have valued the brief and superficial contacts life has presented me with, shopping, going to the dentist, pick up conversations with strangers.  It stopped bothering me a long time ago that some people find strangers who talk, intrusive, or crazy, or boring. 

I have a sanity to maintain.

My friend and her husband have been really happy during the pandemic, going from making the rounds to visit all their  children and grandchildren as well as having regular visitors, to having a complete seal on their house.  

I miss people, it’s hard to find the place in myself that wouldn’t, even though my life is slow and simple and I like time alone to stare off into space.

I go out every day, to buy eggs, or glue or pliers or paint.... something to keep moving, yet I ignored important things like paying my taxes. ( I’m straightening that out now, but I did not want to give one nickel to the Trump administration ) I have had a practice of looking people in the eye, asking how they are, (fine) and remembering their names, making an observation about something, hoping to get a laugh out of them, making the landscape real, and being part of that landscape, making myself real too.

In this year of wading through psychic cement, and global grief, any step in the direction of connection feels like progress, and anyway, I think they are beginning to recognize me at Dunkin’s

Joy and pleasure

Chasing Pleasure reminds me of the chorus to the song that ends, " We'll spend it all in pleasure";
But chasing pleasure is a combination of following a mirage and looking for relief from whatever the uncomfortable feeling is.
I am so familiar with this, so I think I'm qualified to discuss it.
Is pleasure preferable to joy?
For some, it is, though Joy is an underlying reality, whereas pleasure is rooted in appetite.
Joy is what pulls us along the Dharma, and what speaks to us when we need direction.
Joy is the gratitude that arises out of seeing a Monarch butterfly without being sullied by the sadness of knowing a childhood where there were hundreds.
Joy absorbs that sorrow and transmutes it.
Joy fosters forgiveness, where pleasure doesn't come close.
The pleasure of knowing it's the time of day to sit down with my guitar, or paintbrush, and a cup of tea is a result of the Joy that makes that possible.
The difference is, nobody has the power to steal my joy;
my pleasure may easily be interfered with.
Especially if I inadvertently put my paintbrush into my cup of tea.

Independence Day weekend

This morning I drove to town in my fuel efficient, air conditioned car to have coffee with a friend.
We spoke of her new grandchild and whatever drama I’m creating at the moment, while sitting in the deep shade of an ancient sugar maple grove.

In Texas, children are in cages, crying for families they may be lost to for the rest of their lives.

I came home, ate an egg, cooked exactly the way I like it and a piece of toast with some stirfried vegetables.  I pondered how I would finish and put to use a possible studio by the brook.

In places we don’t even know about in this country, girls are being held.  Are they being trafficked? Will we ever know.
We do know that toddlers, who don’t speak or understand any English, and are in a state of traumatic fear are being brought into court and expected to have details about their origins, their parents or anything.

So, it’s hot here, and damp, and the air is oppressive, and hundreds of people have been barrelling up and down the road to get some relief at the lake.  So far, nobody has locked themselves out of their car and needed to use my phone, nobody has had an accident.
It is a typical busy as hell beginning of the busy as hell season out here.
I took a few cool showers, sat in front of a fan, floated in the brook, watched the chickens, removed a couple of ticks and planned my list for tomorrow.

For the children in Auntie Ivanka’s Kidzentration Kamps, there is unlikely to be anything beyond the simplest methods to keep their bodies alive while busy with the work of soul damage.
The people who thought this was a good idea aren’t particularly concerned with souls.

There will be fireworks tonight on the pond in my friendly little New England village, and people will sit on blankets on the beach while the kids roar around exhausting themselves with each other.
Friends who don’t see each other often will catch up, people who see each other all the time will get to enjoy that sense of belonging to a place that is so soothing and important, a feeling nurtured by rituals and holiday weekends.

Over 2,000 children are separated from their parents, sleeping on concrete, surrounded by chain link fence.  The blankets they have are mylar.  Anybody ever slept under a mylar blanket?  If you have, I don’t need to tell you about it.

I am lucky, every minute of every day because I live in safety and privilege.  Nobody is likely to send me back to Ireland or France or Wales.  I am unlikely to be burgled because I don’t have enough interesting stuff for it to be worth it.  I incarnated with a winning lottery ticket.  White, middle class, with a loudmouth, but no influence.  Most of you reading this are in the same situation.
But - what would it take for that to be different?
Very little, really.

We keep saying “This is not us, this is not America”.
But it is -
clearly.

backing away from FB

It's not that I really want to die.
There's an entitled princess inside who doesn't want to experience any discomfort, inconvenience, sadness or disappointment who will come up with some of the darkest ways to avoid feelings.
I try not to listen to her so much, her whinging is repetitious and not very original.
Sometimes I think she's just pissed because she used to have so much power.
These days when she's kicking up a fuss, I stand in front of the mirror or get on the scale, or go where I will be offered a senior discount without ID.
Face it honey, as a princess?  You're a flop.
Then maybe I'll envy all the princesses out there who got away with it; who went on from dewy youth to become queens.
These are the women with shiny, flowing gray hair, no jowls, just some picturesque laugh lines and a gently used neck, straight spine, narrow torso and most importantly, unswollen ankles.
These are the women who if they color their hair, keep up with it, either have a becoming hairstyle or have aged into their 1960's hair without irony.
These are women who know not to wear too much makeup, just enough.
They laugh at a suitable volume.
The cat doesn't run for cover when they sneeze.
They don't sneeze.
They don't sprawl around in flannel or wear crocs.
They do not look silly in pearls.
They found good husbands when good husbands were to be found and when they were flexible enough to become good wives.
They give back to their communities and most people don't cross the street when they see one of them coming the other way.
But I am the one who crosses the street -
and they are relieved.

Still Life With Chickens

I don't know what makes me think I can go anywhere.
It is a good thing that truth isn't limited by geography, or awakening by climate, or finding the inner teacher by going through the air in a metal tube, because one thing that I discovered is that after 5 days of not being in control of what food I get, my system went way out of balance.  I slept.  a lot. Lethargy took over in a big way, and my whole body turned into cement once again.  Just when I think the Lyme symptoms are under control, or better yet, have gone away,  a slip in vigilance reminds me that they have not.
Back to being up all night, sleeping during the day, unable to focus or tolerate stress, blah, blah, blah. I remembered that one thing that really helped me to avoid getting poisoned by ticks was keeping chickens.
I said to my spirit companion, "If I go to the dump today and find an acceptable [and free] place to house chickens until I can put together a real coop, I'll get chickens again.
6 new hens are hanging out in my yard now, and I have set the alarm.  This way, I will get up and take care of some people who can't take care of themselves and who also don't speak English.
I missed hearing their conversations, I missed their cheerful little personalities and their business like lack of sense of humor.  It is kind of like having a yard full of frilly town clerks.

after yoga

I realize that the last post was about silence, and then I said nothing for months.  Not that I had nothing to say, just nothing that seemed to matter, and that has not changed.  It's clear, I write this for myself, to hear my own voice.  As a child I was accused of liking the sound of my own voice.  It was brought forward as though it needed to be corrected.  I was supposed to like the sound of someone else's voice maybe?  The sound of silence perhaps, which I have mostly experienced as deafening.
Hoping to bring some friendlier noise into the silence, or actual silence, I embarked on a Yoga teacher training, with no clear end in mind.  This was all in all a good thing, but because there is the word bitch in the title of these posts, I have things I see that again need adjusting.
In the movement from one pose to another, a voice of self competition comes up, pushing past the idea of doing my best, to not doing enough.  Comparing what ashtanga was like for me 15 years ago before I slid down the long dark tube of depression, to what it is now, sometimes feeling as though I am hanging by my fingers over an abyss of decay and rigidity.
Somehow afterwards, I feel full of light and clarity.  The edges of peace are continually assailed by the stories that the ego loves to tell.
One improvement is that I don't feel as though that monologue is my ego specifically, if it is, he [it has a man's voice] is very unoriginal, because everyone who will talk about it is being read the same list of shortcomings.  It isn't enough to bond with anyone in a community of people who are all tormented by the same noise, but instead to look for the ways in which each person is seeking liberation.  It was my first ever experience in what is turning out to be kind of a long life [not complaining about that] of being in a group of people who all, or mostly seemed to want the same kind of improvement.
Not sad about it, but wondering why the hold up?
Well, desire, obviously, craving, attachment, and after all, those things are still alive and well; just trying not to let them steer the vehicle.  [good luck with that] the noise says.
So. still old, stiff, craving chocolate, wishing I were young enough to fall in love, dreaming I can fly, waking up to find I can't.

All Things Arise In Silence

If I could go back in time and speak to my younger self, any point along the way, but the important crossroads are the ones that come to mind, I would bring a list with me.  First on that list might be that judgmental reactions reveal a lack of kindness and curiosity.  What is there to fear, I might ask.  Chances are, knowing me, and how much like everyone else I was and am, I would not have listened.  I remind myself of the story about the man who was caught in a flood, and when the water came up to his front door, the Red Cross came by to help him evacuate, but he didn't want to abandon his house, so he told the rescuers that he was a Man of Faith, and knew that God would save him.
When the water had come up to his windows, some people in a boat came by and offered him a way to safety, but he told them that he was a Man of Faith, and felt sure that God would not let him drown. Then the water engulfed his house and he had to climb up on the roof.  A helicopter came by and dropped a ladder for him to climb to safety, but he shouted that he was a Man of Faith and God would not let him drown.  As the helicopter flew out of sight, the waters rose further, breaking up his house and swirling him off into the flood.  Shortly thereafter, he stood before the gates of heaven, dripping wet and in a very bad mood.  "I am a Man of Faith" he said.  "All my life I have waited on the Lord and put my complete trust in Him, why did he not save me?"  Rhadamanthus put down his pen for a moment, looked up and said" Well, we sent you a rescue squad, a boat and a helicopter, what more did you want?"
Every day, probably, all my life certainly, I have been sending away helicopters and then being angry with the results.  I can't pass this on to my former self, and any parents out there know how much point there is in passing it on to offspring.  But now, in this moment, I can know that love is available in some form, every minute; that even the things that look like aggression are calls for love.  That the distortions of life might be only kindling for karma, the only creative force is love. Love is the only healer, the only teacher, love is all there is.

Resurrection

Shakti has been dancing

Twirling with arms wide

Feet spinning

Knowing the axis of energy.

But she is lost now

Alone in darkness,

and terrified.

It isn't the velvety darkness;

It isn't the night holding her -

It is the void

Where she pulls invisibility around her

Receding into the deep.

It is not safe anymore,

In the open.

The One Who Has No Joy

Must take hers

To feed his hunger.

But that is an emptiness without end.

Though he will hunt her relentlessly

And finding her hiding place,

Devour her.

Her bones will be burned

And her ashes

Rising like a whirlwind

Will Dance.

Resurgence

If all of us told all our stories

They would cover the earth

Like the leaves of Autumn

Snow in winter,

Like spring floods

and weeds in summer.

They would fill the heavens

blocking out the stars
Leveling the hollow places in our hearts

Instead

We remember them alone.

Holding our past selves

Weeping in our arms.

We must set loose the shame

like a thousand white birds

And pick up our swords

our shields

and sing a warriors song 

of Justice.

 A note to all mothers, here.....
We all know what it means, beyond the terrible love and fear of being a new mother, you have a baby who needs everything done for them, all the time, they have to lie on your chest to sleep, they need to be watched every minute, you can forget about reading a cheesy novel, hanging out with friends, having any kind of completed conversation, you can barely finish a thought.  No going to the bathroom alone, you will be learning to hold a baby while cooking dinner, changing diapers in time to avoid rashes, watching for food allergies or worse, a crawler putting everything in their mouth, from sharp objects to things the cat left on the floor that you didn't notice, playing in the dog bowl, wiping boogers on your shirt, sticking fingers up your nose in the check out line at the market, [or screaming from the cart] throwing things from the car seat and waking up every 2 hours for what seems like years.
Donald Trump has become a "born again Christian", whatever he thinks that means, and has been dubbed a "baby Christian" by his new pastor.  I think you know where I'm going with this.
My first thought was that now he is trying to con God, which might not be the best idea, pretending to be a believer in order to gain political capital.  It's not something I would dare do, because whether one believes in the Political Christian view of God or not, it displays an extraordinary lack of an internal compass or integrity of character.
So who will be watching the baby?
This added factor in the possibility of a Trump administration is something I find scary, and I fear for all the people who would be trying to live either with freedom of religion, or freedom from religion during a Trump presidency.
So....who's going to be watching the baby?

Sins and Virtues

As someone posted to me, "It's hard not to know".  This applies everywhere and has been the source of a lot of wasted time on my part, if time can be said to be wasted...
I suppose the waste is repetition of methods that contribute to decay and darkness when those qualities are not called for.  They are highly appropriate when speaking of compost, though the bacteria might protest at this point and say, "Hey, now, wait just a minute, there..."  because as is mentioned in the Old Testament, there is a time for all things, [and most of the people who bother to read my rants are familiar with the lyrics, so I don't need to recite them here].
There is never enough information, and that must be where trust comes in, or the "F" word, Faith, a quality I like the idea of but am suspicious of the born again Christian spin that has been slathered all over it.
It has never seemed to me to have anything to do with blindly following some guy in a pulpit  or even some guy w/a mitre and expensive shoes, but more about deeply knowing that all the information exists, and is known by some knower, and trusting that that knower knows better than I ever will or can.
The brain is a wonderful machine for that which it was designed, but limited in the face of the infinite.
Underneath the leaves and the pavement and the dust of the road is love, a highly durable commodity, but an unpredictable one.
Love is what inflicts pain, if that is what is needed to shift resistance, Love is what turns the light on, and sometimes off.  I suspect in all the occurrences and relationships that arise and subside, there is only one thing that creates them, maintains them and moves them along and that is Love, whatever form it may come in.
I can only live in a created universe that is, at its core, benevolent.
If it isn't, I am content to find out later.

Father's Day

I had two fathers.  One I knew about, and one I did not.
The father I thought I had could not be pleased.  I could blame this on me not being his biological child, and his knowledge of that, but really, he wasn't that nice to any of us, or around much either.  He told my brother he had to choose between making the business go or being on deck as a father, and he chose the business.  I forget the reason why.
My sister was his favorite, named for his mother, and born after grandmother Anne [who liked to be called "Mother Anne" had died, disappointed to see that the first grandchild, of her only child to have children, was a boy.
Annie always knew how to handle Dad, how to be on his good side, how to get his approval.  It appeared to others of us that she never had a fly on her, but I could not figure him out.  He didn't think I was funny, and that was my strongest card.  I was not good at being the right sort of person to fit in with the family, not accomplished, or confident, and being imaginative and sloppy about details was not a feature he wanted manifesting in his family.
Each of our experiences of him were different, but I wish he had shared the talents he had with cars, and machines, and his knowledge of political systems and business that he shared with my brothers.  He had a Victorian view of girls, but the only way in which my view of girls was Victorian was that they should be fighting for equal rights.
Then there was the man who was my father, whom I knew, but not in that context.  He always found me amusing, and listened to my theories of the universe with interest.  He had a wife already, a staunch Catholic, and a daughter, born 24 years ahead of me.  He believed in organic vegetables, and ways of relating to the world that did not include the church.  He had met Ram Dass, and read widely of the coming alternative ways of thinking and being.  He had no patience with narrow minds, whining or people who took themselves too seriously, and I am sorry to have been robbed of knowing that I had a father who loved me, because I believe he did, though everything had to kept quiet, a secret that was not a secret, but that could not be talked about or alluded to.
I am also grateful to my father, who in the reluctant position of being my father, whether to save his face or not,  did better by me than he had cause to, and I have some sweet memories of him when he was in a cheerful mood when he could be charming and an easy presence.
Happy Father's Day, Dads.

2:30

I have been coming across blogs by people younger than I complaining about aging, about an indignity a day and as I have said in a previous post or 2, what do we think the alternative is?  Death may not be something to be feared, but I am increasingly convinced that whatever is going on here is not meaningless.
From the time of invincible youth [another illusion ] to the master class in letting go there is work to be done.
My daughter and her kids are living with me at the moment and I'm being allowed to experience the contrast of different phases, to dream about trajectory, intention and placing value on things that do not last, or become something you don't expect.
Yes, there is physical crumbling, yes there is memory loss, yes there is less desire as well as ability to whisk up and down the local mountain, or stay up all night singing.  The loss there is replaced by being slow enough to hear what songbirds remain singing at dusk.  Waking in the night, staying awake and feeling the dark and the quiet as another quality to existence, enjoyable because one doesn't have to get up at 6 and rush kids off to school, or get to a job.  There is yearning, but not so much for another person to hold onto as to have time to see what is behind the desire, to ask oneself "What did you expect?".
As my mother slowly disappeared behind a needy, querulous, often confused mask, someone asked what is she living for?  What is the point now?  I didn't have an answer to that, but it seemed then, as now, that there is no way to make an evaluation of someone else's path wherever they are on it.
In the last week before my mother killed herself, when she had decided to stop taking the medications, and hadn't yet decided to really do it and dissolve a bunch of pain killers in a glass of vodka, we had time with her that was precious, and full of light.  She cast off the mantle of suffering, of trying to cover up what was happening to her mind, and gave us back, for a short time, the woman we had been losing for years.  It wasn't until that time that I knew how much of her had been driven underground by pain and weakness.  She gave us the gift of seeing that what is essential is not lost as well as how fragile life is, how easily it slips away.
Things being what they are is a subjective idea, somehow there must be room for informative movement, and receptivity to it as well. As physical impediments force a slowdown, the space is made for that.  This is not something to be mourned, but welcomed, kind of like someone you despise giving you a million dollars.

Road Kill

Crow food now.
Whatever kind of mammal it was...
If I were on a bicycle,
I'd be going slowly enough
to identify the remains;
and it would be easier
to stop -
To give this poor animal
a moment of my time.
But someone more impatient than I
is behind me,
I feel their restlessness
echoing in my bones.
A porcupine
I guessed
from  the glimpse of
little naked feet,
soles turned to the sky.
The size of a toddler's.

Having Fun with Home Repair

The honey do list is long, but there is no honey to do it, so I have to wait until the impatient, good with tools and problem solving part of my personality decides to manifest.  Generally after a period of sloth and ennui.
There is a list for every part and system of this old shack I live in; it was built by an itinerant drunk by the name of Luther in 1926.  He built a good fieldstone foundation, incorporating a few of the glacial erratics on the property, and a fireplace in the center.  After that, I believe he lost interest in the rules of engineering concerning load bearing and other structural integrity niceties.  This is all part of a much longer story being worked on off the DB blog, but I offer it as an introduction to why there is a constant need for shit to get done on the place.
If I believed in eternity as a true concept concerning physical reality, or the relative world as some Eastern lines of thought like to call it, I would say that this is an eternal project, but I know better.  Someday, it will be just a pile that someone is going through looking for clues as to how this life form existed on this planet.  They will find some plastic figurines, bits of metal, plenty of nails, screws, tacks, springs and staples.  There will be the remains of a primitive septic system, a failed garden and maybe I should leave them a note to watch out for the raccoons.  I'm pretty sure they will still be living under whatever is left.
So, today I decided to knock a few plumbing tasks off the list.  Everything is made out of plastic now, and so it lasts for about 2 1/2 years.  The kitchen sprayer was the first thing.  I spent a bit of time under the sink with a head lamp trying to decipher a clip that I remember attaching, but could not figure out how to detach it.  [Note to self:  before attaching things, always experiment with detaching them first.] I called a plumbing supply house in Keene and just to be sexist about it, as soon as I heard a woman's voice, I assumed it was a secretary [correct] who knew jack about plumbing [also correct].  She put me through to some guy, who as soon as he heard a woman's voice, might have thought "This bitch is an idiot, why doesn't she just cough up for a plumber?  Do I look like a plumber?".  He did not.  His helpfulness extended to giving me an 800 number, which I called, but my heart wasn't in it.  I got a woman who said she could only help me if she had a serial number, which, of course, my fixtures did not have.  " Thank you so much," I said.  "Have a nice day," she said as I was hanging up.
My mother used to insist that the world of things, appliances and whatnot were problems only because men designed them.  Those pretty faucet handles that are too slippery to turn off once your hands are wet and/or soapy.  Clips that pop on like magic, but are hell to remove.
All the same, I can't believe that things are designed without some kind of plan in mind, and what's the worst that could happen?  I break it and have to call a plumber.
Well, that issue was successfully taken care of and it only took twice as long as it ought, but I didn't have to pay someone $100. to make me feel like an idiot.   I can do that just fine.  No charge.

short

Inexorably, we are drawn toward death
in every choice.
From every song that goes unheard
or is given voice
to each inhale pulled from the well of breath
heart beat in binary
here
not here.
There -
not there.
Noise, silence, advance, retreat.
remembering tears that fell from emotion so hot
augmented being which is
then is not.

Galactic economy

Just a little pressure, just a whisper, just enough to make it move.  It isn't necessary to pour the entire bag of sand on one side of the scale, just start with a grain of sand, then add another one, and keep adding them until the scale balances.
Moving too slowly?  Something is going to come along and push you.  Moving too fast?  Something will be in your way.
Procrastination/Patience, exuberance/reticence, fear/love, all these things will arise in their turn.  The response triggers are somatic by now.  I am pissed off and impatient before I have had a chance to notice it.  As soon as it is visible, audible, tangible,-that tight feeling in the gut, that's a nice time to stand back and say, "Oh, yes, I remember you.  What is it you want?"  It's always something.  Getting there sooner?  just racing to the grave.  That's all the finish line is anyhow; once a goal has been attained, another one appears, once everything seems to be worked out, watch out, because it's a sign of imminent unraveling.
Things are taken away, a few molecules at a time.  Somewhere on the continuum I catch glimpses, I see that I have been walking or driving or sitting in a dream, and thinking it is the real place, but the one that consensus reality designates as the real place tells me a different story.  That place is always waiting with a list of what needs to be done to get the shit together before it's too late.  Pain, then anaesthesia, until the next time I pull the covers down and peek out to see if the world has changed for the [subjective] better.  It hasn't, most of the time.
The moments when it's possible to notice the unregulated beauty of the unforeseen are the juicy delights I look for every day.
Lately, it has occurred to me that I have been viewing death all wrong.  Not that it is something to be sought, but that it may not be something to be feared.  It is either nothing at all, or it is something, but whatever that is is undefinable, I don't care what religious practice gets applied to it.  In some ways, it is irrelevant
As I spin back and forth in the time machine, recalling what I was so desperate for, and never able to find, to this place that Roseanne Barr called the youth of old age, where the things I regret are things I didn't know existed, and would be pointless to hunt down now.  It would be like ignoring the evening bird song because I was too busy grieving for the morning.
In this increasingly difficult physical world, what has been stripped away leaves the undeniable now, where there is richness of a kind I thought fit to overlook.  The gift of being able to walk, of being able to breathe, of reading, of being able to see, to be independent and live in my remote and complicated home.  Absolutely ordinary life, bursting with goodness and light.  How did I miss it? I have plugged my ears and squeezed shut my eyes and yelled "la la la la la!" like a 2 year old.  Life on my terms.  Not this, but that.  Well, I had to get spoken sharply to, I suppose, the light pressure and whispers weren't enough, but at least nobody was sent with airhorns, or trumpets.  Yet.

Familiarity

I have been sinking like a hot piece of metal in a snowbank, buried deeper with each snowfall, each pass of the plow.  It has been hard to think clearly, to go beyond systems management, logistic design and refuse maintenance.  I made a commitment to do a drawing a day, and after 10 days, such a cloud of ennui!  Just to have to look at anything.  Just to have to see.  With the attention span God gave me, it's a wonder I didn't drop out of school by the 3rd grade.  Wait.  I think I did.
DST, now, delivering the illusion of longer days.  The curve of the sun is higher, the light is different, and if I'm still not convinced, my road is softening up enough to make me dream of high clearance and 4wd.
"Bloom Where You're Planted", the refrigerator magnets say, but what was the wind that blew me here?  That is not a complaint, it was an act of Grace that I don't appreciate enough that gave me what I have and have returned to time over time for reasons as simple as economics.
So many times trying to live somewhere else, somewhere alien to my granite to the bone self, and the end of each story has been if I am going to be lonely and struggling, I might as well be doing it in the comfort of familiarity.
The odd thing about familiarity is that it isn't.  An emotional hook to an mirage of solid ground.
If I go through pictures of my house and my land over time, it changes faster than you would believe if I gave you the list of changes.  What is familiar is the freedom I have to be with whatever tide is flowing through my life, and to adapt in relative safety.
Safety.  Another construct with no ground, meaning or staying power.
But today I have the idea that winter will end, is ending, that it might be nice to cut down some forsythia and bring it inside to bloom, to feel a sense of joy and belonging as I hang out in my not too freezing studio and contemplate pointlessness.